The Monstrous Feminine

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slutisnotabadword
slutisnotabadword

Am I the only one that felt weirded out by how everyone (mainly Stefan) being obsessed with Elena sleeping with Damon. Idk, maybe it’s just me, but people’s sex life is none your business.

Mind you, Elena and Stefan was broken up. AND MIND YOU, Elena told Stefan she still had feelings for Damon. So it’s not like he didn’t know or wasn’t aware, or that it came as a surprise.

Why them sleeping together shouldn’t probably came off as such a shock, was it quick? Sure. But that’s not for anyone to judge. Damon and Elena was both single as fuck, and free to do whatever they please.

fieldsofwax

Stefan literally broke up with HER knowing she really wanted Damon.. and then gets mad that she shares her body with someone besides him

slutisnotabadword
slutisnotabadword

List of small things that TVD missed out on:

1. Damon wearing hoodies. Look, it’s kind out of character for him to do so, but at least ONE solid black pullover hoodie would’ve ve looked so good.

2. Elena being an actual vampire hunter. Yeah, they sort of did this season 3, but it wasn’t near on the level when Jeremy was a hunter. I think it would’ve been nice for her arc, not needing others to protect her but her protecting herself. Simple.

3. Bonnie wearing her natural hair or including more black hairstyles. This isn’t really a small thing considering the serious racism that was happening behind the scenes. We all know why she didn’t *looks at julie*. Bonnie would’ve ATE in some knit less braids.

4. Stefan and Damon wearing this:

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5. Celebrating Stefan’s or Damon’s birthday. Correct me if I’m wrong, seriously. Was either of their birthdays even mentioned? I feel like someone mentioned Stefan’s but I’m not sure if anyone celebrated it. I just think it would be a wholesome moment if Stefan gave Damon a present for his birthday or vice versa.

thequeenofsastiel
thequeenofsastiel

On my, idk, fifth rewatch of TVD, and there are two moments that make me go a little mad. First is when Rose says that Damon makes Elena question her "life" and "beliefs". The second is when Elena is professing her love for Damon at the end of s4 and says that he made her "question everything". I need to know what they mean by that. What questions did Damon make her ask herself? What beliefs did he make her question? What, whether or not it's okay to torture, murder, rape, and kidnap people? Seriously, what questions?! I NEED TO KNOW

fieldsofwax

1. Her belief that your partner needs to defer to your opinion to “respect your choice” instead of keeping you from dying.

2. Questions the idea That when you have a condition where you must drink blood to survive, you must live in shame and pretend not to be that and definitely not enjoy what your body tells you to enjoy

3. That sacrificing yourself because bad guys want you dead is perhaps not because you want to protect your friends, but because you have given up and didn’t consider all the options- you are in shame and pseudo suicidal

4. That just because a person acts like he doesn’t care about others, and does not openly flaunt the ways in which he is a “good person” doesn’t mean that there aren’t good reasons for why he is doing things that other people may not approve of. Sometimes the good man must deceive and upset people in order to do the good thing.

5. Love is not about doing what the other person wants and submitting to their opinion, but doing what is best for that person. And this will produce disagreements with you and the one you love. But that doesn’t mean you love each other less. Love can be selfish, but selfishness is not a bad thing.

6. It is okay to feel pleasure, even when the pleasure you feel is not completely in service to other people. It is okay to feel pleasure just for yourself. It is okay to have fun and forget about everyone else. You don’t have to be the savior all the time, the older sibling protecting everyone else. If that is “selfish,” then selfishness is not a bad thing.

7. There is always another side to a story. And first impressions can be wrong. Love develops with time and trust, through trials and tribulations- not from a meet cute. Honesty and acceptance of past wrongdoings is just as valuable as shame about those wrongdoings.

8. Shame and expressions of repentance is not an expression of a changed man.

slutisnotabadword
slutisnotabadword

Looking back at season 2/3/4 of TVD, I finally realize the stark difference between Damon and Stefan. Ofc this could be many things but one thing I noticed is the way they handle murder.

Okay let’s admit, they’re vampires, they’re whole existence is relying on human blood. Murder/assault is gonna happen regardless.

However, the way they DO IT, is very… interesting. Mainly Stefan.

Stefan’s ripper flashbacks tells me a few things, like how he’s just a sick individual.

Killing someone is one thing but ripping apart their body parts, putting them back together, and then writing their names on a wall to relive the kill over and over is a WHOLE other thing.

The worst we’ve seen Damon do is compel people for a bit and then kills them the old fashioned vampire way (seriously correct me if I’m wrong).

But Stefan goes the extra, twisted and wicked mile. And he truthfully reminds me of serial killers. You can argue that all vampires are a serial killers but I’m talking about serial killers in OUR world. Stefan reminds me of creeps like Jeffrey Dahmer, Ted Bundy, men that puts on his façade of niceness and normal, but actually have the most evil intention intentions. Just fucking SICK.

fieldsofwax

He actually looks like Ted bunch and has the personality of Jeffrey dahmer. Just plain and basic toxic masculinity

fieldsofwax
fieldsofwax

the entirety of tvd is about two brothers who from childhood, as a trauma response (abusive alcoholic father), colluded with each other into playing roles of morally good brother and morally bad brother and them doing all they can to reinforce that (damon the scapegoat, stefan the secretive ‘hero’) -but vampirism, as a condition of forced moral greyness, challenges this act of being moral opposites that they do. Stefan continued the cycle of “addiction” in being a ripper as a vampire, and Damon displays dry drunkenness and scapegoat/rebel behavior. And when a human (who is not forced into moral greyness)-Elena (the mediator), manages to actually get to know these vampires, she gets to them to realize that neither is "good" or "bad"-no one is.

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slutisnotabadword
slutisnotabadword

“You don’t know what I look like when I’m not in love with you.”

YES YES YES. You’re fucking right Stefan. This is who you truly are. A manipulative, selfish, jealous, psychotic SICKO.

Stefan is over a hundred years old, GROW TF UP. Boo-hoo, Elena chose Damon, as if you didn’t drive her to it throughout season 3. He has every right to be hurt, but acting out like bleeding his brother dry because of jealousy (let’s be honest, it wasn’t just to keep him locked up cause Kol compelled him), and then sleeping with Rebekah (aka the bitch that is RESPONSIBLE for Elena becoming a vampire in the first place).

I dont like Stefan, he irritates and annoys my fucking soul. He puts on his mask of compassion and heroism, but deep down he’s so fucking horrible. It honestly makes me laugh.

And it makes me think. Y’know how everyone says vampirism heightens who you are inside? And then remember how Stefan acted RIGHT AFTER he was turned? Boy didn’t waste no time being a ripper.

I’m ranting. This post no longer makes sense. That’s how much this man ANNOYS ME.

fieldsofwax

There is not enough anti Stefan and to me it means people did not watch the show intently enough. The most telling depiction of who Stefan is and how it affects Damon is that flashback to when they were kids scene, where the alcoholic abusive father is asking who took his money, Damon claims he did it to protect Stefan (protect Stefan’s hero image by being the scapegoat) and Stefan immediately gets up to get his father’s lighter to light the cigar that Giuseppe then uses to torture Damon. His is a devout worshipper of the same kind of moral highground in which toxic masculinity, white supremacy, and Christian abuse comes from. THAT is why I hate Stefan. And it is so clear from even the way he looks and moves, and in all that he doesn’t say or dodges. He exudes milquetoast mildness as superiority, as being more refined. He turns that block-ass chin up at everyone around him, including his teenage girlfriend he stalked to become his delusion project.

slutisnotabadword
slutisnotabadword

Season 4 of TVD is so fucking annoying simply, because of how everyone’s either stroking Stefan ego, because everyone’s so convinced Elena will run back to him if she takes the cure. And how everyone is CONSTANTLY feeding into Damon’s insecurities.

Like oh my god???

Damn near every episode someone’s telling Damon “you’ve got the most to lose when Elena takes the cure,” or “she only slept with you because of the sore bond” and not to mention everyone saying that Elena has no free will physically and mentally when it comes to the wire bond EVEN THOUGH IT HAS BEEN REPEATED THAT IT DOES NOT WORK LIKE THAT but I suppose common comprehension isn’t so common. Okay.

Mentioning this shit once or maybe even three times, but damn near every episode??? PLEASE stfu.

fieldsofwax

This is why I cannot stand Stefan worship or Stefan pitying, when it seems o me everyone on the show caters to him as the “best” one